“I’ve been wanting to try a male to male massage for years, but I’ve always been too nervous”
This is something that a gay massage therapists hears several times a week. It’s common to see client’s physically shaking with nerves, as they hand over payment in advance of their massage treatment.
So what is so scary about going for a gay massage?
Absolutely nothing. When you go for a male to male massage, you have one job:
To lie there still and receive pleasure.
There is nothing expected of you, other than to relax and enjoy your service. There isn’t any need for any “pre-massage nerves” – let’s have a look at the reasons why some men may be nervous to try a male to male massage.
Fear of the unknown.
After years working as a full time gay masseur, and over 1000 clients, I’m yet to have a client say “I was nervous before, and I had every reason to be, that was scary!!!”
100% of clients that confess to being anxious or nervous about the massage service, have told me later that they loved it, and in hindsight, there was nothing to be nervous about.
I think many guys are just nervous about trying something new. They overthink the whole situation. They worry about the massage service as they haven’t experienced it before and don’t know what to expect.
My best advice for those scared of the unknown of the male to male massage experience, is to think about what I mentioned previously: the massage only entails lying down still and receiving pleasure, there is nothing rationally to be nervous about.
Worried about being judged naked
Many men suffer from lack of body confidence. For guys that are not comfortable with their naked bodies, the thought of stripping off, for a complete stranger to get their hands on his body, would be a real cause for anxiety.
I could easily say here that your fear is irrational and that there is nothing to worry about, but I know that would do very little to help reduce your anxiety.
What I will say, is that any massage therapist that has had a decent amount of massage experience, has seen your body type so many times before, whatever that type may be.
I promise you that they will not be judging you – you are just another client to them, and irrelevant of your body shape, they are extremely grateful for your business.
Like a gynaecologist with vaginas, massage therapists have seen too many bodies for your own body to stir any particular emotion. A different massage approach may be required to suit your body, but that will be the only thoughts had on your body shape.
I’ve had many clients mention that having a regular naturist male to male massage, has seriously helped them build on their body confidence, so I plead with you to not let any body confidence issues of your own, dissuade you from booking a massage.
If you’re thinking of booking a Naturist Sensual Massage, you may have concerns about your ability to “perform”.
Perhaps you suffer with some form of Erectile Dysfunction? Are you worried that this may either embarrass you in front of your masseur, or cause you to not enjoy the service?
Let’s take a look at these scenarios individually:
I struggle to get erect when I’m nervous. – Your massage therapist will know how to relax you fully and to remove that anxiety, before even starting to build up the sensual side of the massage.
Massage itself improves circulation and helps to get the blood pumping – creating the ideal circumstances for an erection to occur. Unless you have a diagnosed medical condition that prevents erections, it is extremely unlikely that an experienced sensual/tantric male massage therapist will not be able to give you an erection.
Whilst it may be tempting to pop a pill to alleviate the worry of not being able to get an erection, I strongly recommend that you do not do this. The whole purpose of massage is about becoming more in touch with our bodies, and introducing drugs to the equation removes all of the wonderful holistic benefits.
Instead, take the attitude, ‘if I don’t get an erection I can still enjoy the massage’ – and I then pretty much guarantee you that you will have no issues with getting wood for your sensual massage.
I cum too fast! – Premature ejaculation is extremely common and can be frustrating for any male that experiences it. It becomes a much bigger problem if you shooting your load too soon means your partner feels dissatisfied, but when it comes to a sensual massage, there is no problem.
In fact, male to male masseurs actually love it when a client is easy to bring to climax, it’s less work for us!
If you’re aware that you generally shoot quick and easy, but don’t want to cum too soon in the massage. simply tell your masseur!
It’s nothing at all to be embarrassed about, we would much rather you tell us to turn down the sensual side, if it means you get to delay longer and get a service that you are happy with.
Tell your masseur “I come quick so please can you take the sensual side slow” – get it out the way at the start of your massage and then it’s over and done with.
One thing to remember, is that because the massage itself is very relaxing and sensual, combined with the situation being unique, the majority of men, even those without PE issues, will cum much faster during a sensual massage than during a self-service wank.
I know from experience, that a regular naturist sensual massage is highly beneficial in improving issues with premature ejaculation. I personally think it should be prescribed as a treatment for guys that are suffering with the issue!
I take forever to cum! – If you’re at the other end of the scale and you take a long time to reach climax, you might be worried about offending your masseur or it becoming a little awkward as he plugs away with no results.
Admittedly, guys who fall into this category are much rarer than guys who cum very quickly, but I know that it is a concern for some.
it is nothing to be ashamed about, but you will get a better service if you let your masseur know that this can happen at the start of the sensual massage, so they know to allow for it time-wise.
If you know of any “tricks” that help you get to the destination sooner, then your masseur will be glad if you point them in the right direction. If you find that you can only climax if you do the pleasuring yourself, there is no problem in taking over the task for the grand finale.
One thing I stress that you keep in mind if you are suffering with any “performance anxiety” issues prior to your naturist sensual massage, is that this service is not to be confused with Gay Escort service. With a Naturist Sensual Massage, the massage is still the focus of the session and would be highly pleasurable and beneficial, even if the sensual side couldn’t happen for any reason.
Also, we react differently to different people, and even to the same people on different days, so don’t think just because you couldn’t enjoy the sensual side of your massage one time means that it will always be an issue.
Summary for reducing male to male massage nerves.
- Remember that your masseur will not judge your body shape.
- Go with a focus on enjoying the massage and see the sensual side as a bonus
- Don’t give any thoughts to whether you will get erect or how quick you will cum – just let it happen when it happens.
- Be open with your male masseur about anything that will ensure you enjoy your massage more.
- If you feel nervous about your massage – ask yourself why? It is unlikely you will have a rational reason (that hasn’t been debunked above).
Article written by Kevin